Elijah John-Robert Barr

04/04/1989 — 07/23/2011

From West, Richland, WA, US | Born in Portland, OR

Elijah John-Robert Barr

ELI BARR'S GLORIOUS LIFE ON EARTH… TO BE CONTINUED IN HEAVEN

On April 4, 1989, God entrusted the imperfect body and perfect soul of Elijah John-Robert, to Kathy and Rob Barr. Early in life Eli was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder and his parents were told he would live just a few years. However, through God's amazing grace and the love and prayers of hundreds and hundreds of people, Eli survived two bone marrow transplants, a stem cell transplant, back surgery, and two heart surgeries. On July 23, 2011, our Lord received Eli's soul in heaven after a heroic, but brief struggle with pneumonia, following aortic heart valve replacement surgery. He was full of energy that was firmly founded in love.

A member of the Richland Lutheran Church, Eli was an active, dedicated and faithful member of Jesus Christ's legions. His faith in God was unwavering, continuous and present for all to witness. He had a special relationship with every member of his church, all of whom prayed many hours for him as he traveled through his short life. He particularly loved our Pastors Bill Martens, Steve Ernst and former Pastor Bill Voris, special friends Gretchen and Dave Isakson and Corrine Armstrong, who successfully prayed Eli through his many life challenges. None of us will forget Eli's weekly hugs of Corrine following his balancing of the offering on his head at the Saturday night service. one balancing act!

Eli graduated from Richland High School in 2010 with hundreds of loving and supportive classmates who traveled with him through his life threatening back surgery. He was the consummate Bomber in 'Bomberland'. Eli and his Uncle Paul and Aunt Linda loved the WSU Cougars and never missed a chance to cheer them on, much to the chagrin of Eli's Idaho Vandal parents and brother. It is certainly safe to say Eli fought and won more tough battles than the Cougars or Vandals!

All who knew Eli quickly experienced his love to chat. He spent many hours on the phone sharing his daily life with his grandma Marjorie and Uncles Paul, Ron and Rick. He had a thirst for knowledge and an endless number of questions about Biblical history, animals and everything in between. We are certain he is a greeter at the gates of heaven.

Eli loved and admired the doctors, nurses and staff of St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, who successfully brought him through a bone marrow and a stem cell transplant. He so looked forward to his annual checkup and seeing physician's assistant Richard Rochester, Ms. Elizabeth Walker, who chronicled Eli's life for the St. Jude's Promise Magazine, and Ms. Janice Ivory, who ran the gift store. While at St. Jude's, Eli entwined his life with a truly great man, Mr. Bill Cash, Chief Deputy Sheriff of Shelby County, Tennessee. Eli and Mr. Bill had a very special relationship – Bill was Eli's best friend next to his dad. Bill and Eli talked on the phone for hours sparring over which college was best – WSU or UCLA. Bill introduced Eli to the many members of the Sheriff's Department, including the former sheriff and current mayor of Shelby County, Mark Luttrell. In 2004 Eli was made an honorary member of the Shelby County Sheriff's Department and their SWAT team.

Eli loved all of God's creatures from cats, dogs and birds, to snakes, naked mole rats, and geckoes. Zoo animals were his special passion; his lifelong dream was to build a zoo in the Tri-Cities. His Uncle Paul designed and blueprinted Eli's Tri-City Zoo.

Eli "hired" various friends and family to work at his zoo, principle of which was Pastor Martens – the lead elephant pooper scooper. Eli had a very special relationship with Juan Fuentes, a docent at the Memphis Zoo, one of his most favorite places. They talked animals for hours. Nothing excited Eli more than to tell the story of watching his mom scurry out the door of the Memphis Zoo reptile house as a gaboon viper was fed a large rat.

Eli was an 'extreme' sports fan and his favorite team was the Chicago Cubs. Following his stem cell transplant in 2002, Eli was invited to be a special guest of the Cubs at a game at Wrigley Field. There Eli met and coached Sammy Sosa in the fine art of hitting home runs, as only our precious son could do. Unfortunately, Eli never discussed the illegality of corked bats with Sammy and NEVER forgave Dusty Baker for trading his beloved superstar. He watched every televised Cub game, a true test of his faith, eternal hope and endurance. It is very sad that Eli and millions of Americans have not seen the Cubs win a World Series.

Eli loved to play golf and allegedly got a hole in one on the fifth hole at the West Richland golf course. His true love for golf was energized by the Sun Willows men's gangsome. This group of about 50 "grumpy old men" adopted Eli as one of their own. They enjoyed playing and "trash talking" golf with him. These men are a testament to camaraderie, love of differently-abled kids and the game of golf. Eli enjoyed many special moments with Mr. Weems a.k.a. Big Brown, Polo and Uncle Charlie.

Eli delighted in fishing with family friends, Bill and Derek Friedel. They spent hours in Bill's boat and had the pictures, stories and even the fish to prove it! Derek and Eli were friends from age three—soccer, baseball, fishing and golfing best buddies to the end. Eli also loved Derek's mom, Vicky, brother, Brandon, sister Brandy and especially their Grandpa and Grandma Wren.

Most important to Eli was his family. Eli loved and admired his big brother Ben. Ben is everything Eli could not be - big, strong, and exceedingly smart.

Eli cherished every hug from Ben. Eli's dad, Rob, was his best friend. They did everything together, always a team of one. They were inseparable and even shared the same stem cells. Eli's mom, Kathy, was his other best friend. What Rob couldn't do - Kathy could. There was and never will be a more loving mother or caregiver than Kathy – Eli knew this with all his heart and soul. He loved his family intensely without condition.

Eli's extended family included his very special Canadian relatives. Eli cherished his memories of special Canadian family events: weddings, fishing at Buffalo Lake, hanging out at the Starling Farm and the Calgary Zoo. Following high school graduation,

Eli became a dedicated, hard working employee of Goodwill Industries and considered the many managers, supervisors and workers of Goodwill to be part of his family. He treasured the many friendships he developed at work, none more than with his supervisor, Mr. Dave Robison. We thank God for such a wonderful organization and team of people – they enriched Eli's life beyond imagination and encouraged him to be his very best.

Eli is survived by his parents, Rob and Kathy Barr, brother, Ben Barr, grandfather John Sims, grandmother, Marjorie Barr and special grandma, Jane Mack. Eli was loved by many aunts and uncles including Helen, John and Bob Drake, Linda and Paul Engert, Janet and Ron Barr, Terry and Rick Barr. Eli was treasured by his Canadian family and many special family friends: Scott, Debbie, Jeff, Matt and Megan Hardman; former neighbors and cherished friends, Pat and Gayle Harbison; Pat Seadog, Karen, Bob, Jana, Mike and Joey Leahy; Judy, Danny and Mr. Herman Kurth; Becky, Katie, Jordan, Alex and Chase Enterline, and so many more loving friends who live across the country and are all part of our family.

Eli we love and miss you. From you we learned to trust in our Lord no matter what and to never, never, never give up. Your place in our hearts is sad and our home is very empty and quiet, but our tragic loss is heaven's glorious gain.

Eli's memorial celebration service is Friday, August 5, 2011, at 11:00 a.m. at the Richland Lutheran Church, 901 VanGiesen, Richland, WA. Please wear comfortable, cool and casual clothing: golf shirts, favorite team shirts especially if you are a Cougar or Cubs fan.

In lieu of flowers, please consider honoring Eli with a donation to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, Richland Lutheran Church or the local Goodwill Industries.

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  • Eli was the first friend I made when I started middle school at Chief Joseph Middle School. Ever since then, he was there for me when I felt out of place because of my Autism and when he had to go to St. Jude’s for treatment, I sent emails to keep him up to date on school life. We cheered for each other during Special Olympics, studied together, and were even each other’s “dates” for middle school dances. Eli will always be in my heart as the best friend I ever had.

    Amanda Older
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • Kathy, Rob and Ben – Eli will be missed. I’ll always remember the evening you Rob brought him to my home. It was a very special moment for me and the first time I met him. He was a very special young man and touched many hearts in many ways. I’m sure he continues to do so. He’s now in a truly glorious place with our Lord Jesus. He was loved by all who knew him or knew of him.

    Sandy Steele
    November 4, 2014
    Pasco, WA, US
  • Eli,

    You will be truly missed, what you may have lacked in physical stature, you more than made up for in presence.

    All of us who were touched by you are blessed.

    Tee to green and nothing but birdie putts.

    God’s Blessing upon you, your family and your friends.

    Richard Davis
    November 4, 2014
    Pasco, WA, US
  • So sorry to hear that Eli is no longer with us here on earth, but am delighted to know that he is with our Lord and Saviour!! I loved going to work RHS each day as Eli was one of the first people to say good morning to me as I unlocked the healthroom each day. We had a lot to talk about and he was the most positive and upbeat person I have met. I was so excited to see him graduate with my daughter and cheered just as loud for him as I did my daughter has he was handed his diploma. Eli…you will be missed, but I know you have great work to do in Heaven with our Father. God Bless his family and may your hearts heal knowing he is smiling down upon you all…keep his cheerful heart close to yours and you will find peace with his departure.

    Yvonne Garrison
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • Barr family,

    I am a para-educator in the lifeskills classroom at RHS. I got to work with Eli his senior year of school. He was a kind and thoughtful young man. A real joy to be around. I was saddened to recieve the news of his passing. My heart goes out to you, he will be greatly missed.

    ~Kara

    Kara Kent
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • We’ll miss Eli on the golf course. He could putt with the best of them. His dad tells a great story of how Eli met John Daly and gave him a putting lesson he won’t soon forget — making a hole in one and leaving John Daly rolling with laughter. One of many great stories from Eli’s too short life.

    Tony George
    November 4, 2014
    Umatilla, OR, US
  • Dear, Ben, Rob and Kathy, Our hearts were so saddened learning of Eli’s passing. He truly was a “warrior for Christ”. He shared his love with so many people and we’re thankful to be two of those people! We’ve kept Eli’s friend Ruthie Brandt updated with the current prayer requests as well as his passing. Another very special young lady in our lives…known her since she was two years old.

    We will continue to keep you all in our prayers and thoughts and especially next weekend.

    Our Sincere Sympathy and Love to you all.

    God’s Blessings,

    Pastor Carl and Ruthann Jensen

    Pastor Carl and Ruthann Jensen
    November 4, 2014
    Bellingham, WA, US
  • Robb, Kathy and Ben; I am so very sorry for your loss. Eli was bigger than life-what a personality! May his memory be eternal.

    Dennis Kirsch
    November 4, 2014
    Benicia, CA, US
  • To the Barr family:

    Eli was a special member of our gangsome at Sun Willows. I will never forget his amazing drives on every hole using his “Louis Tiant” swing. Tiant was a pitcher with the Red Sox who would end up looking at centerfield in the middle of his wind-up before he threw. Eli would do the same and hit the ball further than anyone could believe. I am one of many who was ‘honored’ by being out driven by Eli at least once. I’ll miss him saying “he’s got it!” every time his dad hit a putt and having Eli putting for birdie or eagle every hole. We all learned a lot from Eli- about life and about ourselves. Thank you Eli and thank you Rob for introducing us to him. We miss him and grieve with you and your family. “Tall Paul” however will be somewhat safer on the driving range after getting a lesson from Eli. He is in God’s arms now and awaiting the rest of us.

    Love to all of you,

    Kevin aka Lightnin’ Butt

    Kevin Clarke
    November 4, 2014
    Burbank, WA, US
  • Kathy, Rob and Ben –

    I am so sorry for your loss. Elijah was such a special person. I will always remember he passion for life and his love of the Lord. Know now that you have an angel looking down upon you. May God grant you strength during this difficult time.

    Danielle LaSalle
    November 4, 2014
    Seattle, WA, US
  • Eli, you gave as good as you took! I’ve not met many as plucky as you. May you golf your way happily through heaven!

    Apolonio 'Polo' Coronado
    November 4, 2014
    Pasco, WA, US
  • To the Barr family; I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Eli. This little man was an inspiration to me. To see God’s joy and a quick wit always with Eli helped me with my perspective of life’s challenges. Seeing Rob be a strong father and solid friend to Eli was always heart warming. My prayers are with the family during this difficult time. Until we meet in heaven Eli….. GO COUGS!!

    Jeff Filip
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • To the Barr family

    I was one of the many lucky ones who had the privilege of knowing Eli. As a school bus driver, I got to take him to school and home every day. After Eli graduated high school – my bus was never quite the same. We could all take a lesson from Eli. He endured so much in his short life, but you never, ever saw anything other than a smile on his face. Everyday Eli would say something or tell me some story that would make me smile or laugh and I couldn’t wait to get home and share it with my family. They never got to personally meet Eli but they knew him just the same. He used to ask me to tell my kids that they could have jobs at his zoo. Eli had so many wonderful friends and family. To Rob, Kathy and Ben – I hope all your happy memories and stories about Eli help to ease your heartache. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Julie Froehlich
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • Rob, Kathy and Ben,

    Thank you for letting us be a part of Eli’s Glorious Life for 22 years. We have so many wonderful memories of Eli. He was always so caring, happy and loving. We can take away so much from knowing him.

    Kathy, this should make you smile, I will always remember Eli liked my pancakes better than yours.

    We love you all and Eli we miss you so much and will miss your phone calls, especially on our birthdays when you sang happy birthday to us.

    Pat & Gayle Harbison
    November 4, 2014
    Warren, OR, US
  • I First Met Eli when he played soccer against my son Keith.Then it was great to see him working at Goodwill.I will remember him as a very determined young man that lived life to the fullest.He will be missed.Peace and comfort to the Barr family at this difficult time.With sympathy, Renea Manis

    Renea Manis
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • So beautiful…………..and so glad you have many wonderful memories of Eli. We will all miss him, but it was worth the blessing of knowing and loving him.

    Debbie & Mike Stankovich
    November 4, 2014
    West, Richland, WA, US
  • My dearest Eli, I never meet you until a good friend shared his sorrows with me. You have warmed so many hearts with your outlook in life. And now you are a gaurdinian Angel looking down upon us and giving us the strenght that you have had through out your years. Love ya Eli !!! Your body, your laughter, your smile will be missed, but your soul will carry on forever in each and everyones hearts! Thank You for being you!!!

    Kimmi Guzman
    November 4, 2014
    Hermiston, ON, US
  • Eli was a light in this world and he is greatly missed. When I think of him I can’t help but smile. Heaven is a joyfully place today and our world a bit dimmer without him. Thank you for Eli. My thoughts and prayers are with you through this very huge loss.

    Elizabeth Bombino
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • I had no idea, how Eli struggled with his health through the years.

    I read the St. Jude article “Call of the Wild” just yesterday…Now I know! What an amazing, courageous, incredibly special human being. Makes my complaining about poor golf shots, VERY SILLY!

    May God bless the Barr family, and many friends, through this MOST difficult time. Rest In Peace Eli!

    Greg Brown
    November 4, 2014
    Pasco, WA, US
  • Dear Barr Family..I feel so fortunate to have met Elijah following the memorial service for

    neighbor, Vernon Drake..neighbors

    for many years. Helen Drake is Kathy’s aunt, and she kept us informed as to the life of Elijah

    through the years. Our neighborhood sends heartfelt prayers in your loss. Elijah touched so many lives and will be

    remembered and missed by thousands

    who knew him, or knew about him.

    Remember that your great loss is

    shared by us all; and our prayers are with you.

    Bill Harbert
    November 4, 2014
    Spokane, WA, US
  • Kathy, Rob, Ben, we had been on our prayer bones recently while Eli had his last surgery and then we had the “good” news that he was home and we kinda took things for granted that all was well; so what a shock to learn of the Pneumonia and his “quick” trip to his heavenly home. We love all of you and now pray that God has his loving arms around you all and will carry you through this time of grieving. Love, Erv and LaVonne

    Erv and LaVonne
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • I know words offer small comfort in your sorrow, but I wish to express my sincere sympathy in the loss of Eli. May your faith and fond memories sustain you during this difficult time. I pray the family will have comfort in knowing Eli is with his Lord and Savior. Saturday evening church service will not be the same without Eli.

    God’s Blessings!

    Dorothy Beyer
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • Dear Mr and Mrs Barr

    My son Jon Robbins was so sad hearing that Eli had passed on. Jon loved to see him at Atomic Bowl when they were both on the Special Olympics bowling team. He was always smiling. I admired him that he had such a great attitude. My son and I will miss him. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

    Sincerely,

    Sandra Knutzen And Jon Robbins

    Sandra Knutzen
    November 4, 2014
    Kennewick, WA, US
  • I just learned this evening that the world is no longer blessed with Eli’s presence. No, on second thought, that is not completely true because Eli will always be with us in a special kind of way. He was a kid who left footprints on the hearts, minds and souls of everyone who knew him. I know he did that to / for me in a way that’s difficult to describe. I remember his unbridled enthusiasm when riding to Saturday evening church services with me on my motorcycle. What a hoot that was. His “hooting” at girls as we passed them on the street on the way to church was, indeed, a real “hoot”. Our loss is heavens gain.

    Anonymous
    November 4, 2014
    West, Richland, WA, US
  • Dear Rob, Ben, and Kathy,

    I was deeply saddened to hear of Eli’s passing, but I know your faith sustains you. I met Eli only once, but after reading the entries here, I can tell he touched a lot of lives and crammed a lot of living into 22 short years. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless you all.

    Melissa Mitchell
    November 4, 2014
    Pasco, WA, US
  • Dear Barr family,

    We were so sorry to hear of Eli’s passing. The love and support your family has for each other will help you through this difficult time. The memory of Eli will always be with you. God bless you all.

    Steve & Jan Wisness
    November 4, 2014
    Richland, WA, US
  • To the Barr family, we remember Eli’s beautiful smile, sense of humor and pure joy. We pray that God will soothe the ache in your hearts and give you strength.

    Sheila and John LaSalle
    November 4, 2014
    West, Richland, WA, US
  • Everyone of us has a bit of Elijah in them. With his passing, a little of us went with him. The Whelan’s are very sad by this news, as we were especially graced to have known him. He was always kind and gracious to us, and every time we saw him, he put a smile on our faces. He was very special and will be missed. We are very sorry that we were not living in W. Richland to personally express our condolences. You have our deepest sympathies. Love Gene, Heidi, Dustin, and AJ

    Gene and Heidi Whelan
    November 4, 2014
    Athens, GA, US
  • Rob,Kathy & Ben,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Love,

    The Clossey,

    Len, Maria & family

    Len & Maria Clossey
    November 4, 2014
    West, Richland, WA, US
  • Kathy, Rob & Ben,

    I am heart broken to hear of Eli’s passing. Just coincidence that I found you Kathy – my Oxford roommate. Our prayers are with you now and I understand your pain.

    Amaste. Sue Gothier Silva

    Susan Silva
    November 4, 2014
    Chico, CA, US
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